Empath Wellness: 10 Commandments for Spiritual Awakening
Discover how empaths can navigate spiritual growth, embrace self-care, and find balance amidst life’s challenges. What is great advice for many can prove to be destructive for empaths.
Empath Wellness and Spirituality for People Pleasers
In the realm of spiritual traditions and modern teachings, paths laid out for liberation and grace often seem ill-suited for empaths, codependents, and highly sensitive individuals. What’s prescribed as a journey toward selflessness and generosity can, paradoxically, become a restrictive experience for those naturally inclined to prioritize the well-being of others over their own.
The Spiritual Conundrum for Empaths
The Disconnect Between Spiritual Teachings and Empath Needs
While the advice to be more selfless and generous is beneficial for many, empaths often find themselves overwhelmed by such directives, exacerbating their struggles with maintaining personal boundaries and self-care.
Religious and New Age Challenges
Religious edicts to turn the other cheek and New Age imperatives to manifest one’s reality can be particularly perilous for empaths in harmful situations, potentially leading to further victimization and emotional distress.
Bad Advice for Toxic Relationships
For those entangled in abusive dynamics, adhering to spiritual guidance advocating passivity and forgiveness without critical discernment can be damaging, even life-threatening.
The Peril of New Age Philosophies for Empaths
New Age ideologies that emphasize personal responsibility for one’s circumstances can unintentionally victim-blame and undermine the experiences of those facing manipulation or abuse by narcissistic individuals. If you live in a violent relationship… listening to this could kill you. It could also prevent you from reporting a rape and asking for help.
Common advice that is dangerous for Empaths
Spiritual Advice That Can Kill
Religion preach:
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- To turn the other cheek
- Not to stand up for myself
- That silence is a virtue
- To love and be kind to people who are mean to me and hurt me
- To always be humble, generous, and take care of others’ needs before my own.
New age teachings tell us:
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- “I am responsible for my own life”
- “I create my own reality”
- “I have attracted this person/this situation”
- “It’s up to me to change my thoughts and feelings, so I can change my life for the better”
- “If I just focus on the positive things and remain optimistic, he/she will be nice, calm down, and treat me with respect.”
- “If I talk about negative things, I will just attract more negative people/situations”
- “I probably have some karma left from a previous life that I need to work on”
- “The people who treat me the worst are my best
- teachers”
- “I just need to let go and accept what is”
- “Other people’s behavior towards me is just a mirror of something within me”
Common Social Advice:
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- “Don’t stand out”
- “Don’t think you are special”
- “Stay out of this”
- “Speaking is silver, but silence is golden”
- “Love always starts with a fight”
- “Don’t make a scene”
- “Don’t challenge fate”
- “You get what you deserve”
- “You reap what you sow”
A new set of spiritual and life advice for empaths
10 Commandments for Empaths & People Pleasers
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Prioritize self-care to effectively assist others. Take care of yourself first before trying to save others. Give to others from what overflows from your own cup.
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Heed your intuition and heart above external pressures.
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Cease performing roles that no longer serve you.
four
Learn about your core values, and honor them, and live authentically, be true to yourself.
five
Cultivate environments filled with kindness and support and minimize contact with manipulative, draining, toxic people.
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Learn how to set healthy personal boundaries and have nothing to do with people who disregard or disrespect them.
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Treat yourself as you would the person you love most. Shower yourself with all your empathy, care, patience, love, and generosity.
Eight
Address and heal from past traumas, work on your inner child and shadow side.
Nine
Bring forth your inner warrior, animal, goddess, or god—the side of yourself you’ve suppressed to play small and safe.
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Stop justifying your existence; you matter, you are valuable! Just as you are. Speak up, stand up for yourself, let your voice be heard, share your story with people who are ready to truly listen, with their hearts.
Embrace Empathy as a Source of Power
Empathy, when properly nurtured and balanced with self-awareness and self-care, emerges not as a vulnerability but as a profound source of strength. For empaths embarking on the path of spiritual awakening, embracing these principles can illuminate a journey marked by profound transformation and authentic empowerment.
We invite you to share your journey, struggles, and victories in embracing your empathic nature. Together, let’s forge a path of wellness that honors our sensitivity as a gift and a gateway to deeper understanding and connection.
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