Why Jordan Peterson’s Competence-Based Hierarchy Fails

Why Jordan Peterson’s Competence-Based Hierarchy Fails

Why Jordan Peterson’s Competence-Based Hierarchy Fails

Why Jordan Peterson’s “Competence-Based Hierarchy” Narrative Fails: Why the World Needs Women in Power

Jordan Peterson often argues that societal hierarchies are rooted in competence rather than systemic oppression. He claims that these structures emerge naturally, reflecting meritocratic principles rather than deliberate inequality. But this idea crumbles when we critically examine historical and current evidence, particularly in the context of gender. It’s not just misguided; it’s toxic. It perpetuates a system of oppression that holds back not only women but also the entire fabric of society, including men, by clinging to archaic gender roles that no longer serve humanity’s collective good.

Here’s why this notion is counterproductive and why a world with women in power would lead to a safer, more equitable, and thriving society.

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Jordan Peterson’s Interpretation of Jungian Archetypes vs. Carl Jung’s Original Concepts

Jordan Peterson, a clinical psychologist, has extensively discussed Carl Jung’s concept of archetypes, particularly focusing on masculine and feminine energies. However, his interpretations have been critiqued for diverging from Jung’s original ideas.

Carl Jung’s Perspective:

Peterson often portrays masculine and feminine archetypes as distinct and opposing forces. He associates masculinity with order and femininity with chaos, suggesting a natural tension between the two. This perspective can imply a hierarchical relationship, where one force dominates the other, rather than a balanced integration. 

Jordan Peterson’s Interpretation:

Peterson’s interpretation contrasts with Jung’s emphasis on balance and integration. By framing masculine and feminine energies as oppositional, Peterson’s view may reinforce traditional gender roles and hinder the pursuit of psychological wholeness that Jung advocated.

Jordan Peterson Quote

“The people who hold that our culture is an oppressive patriarchy, they don’t want to admit that the current hierarchy might be predicated on competence.”

Analysis of Jordan Petersons Perspective:

These statements suggest a perspective that downplays systemic gender inequalities and may perpetuate traditional power structures. Such views can be counterproductive to efforts aimed at fostering an inclusive and equitable society.

By critically examining these interpretations and statements, we can better understand the implications of Peterson’s views on gender and societal structures.

Influence on Male Audiences

Peterson’s teachings have resonated with many young men, some of whom feel marginalized in contemporary society. While his advice on personal development can be constructive, there is concern that certain individuals may misinterpret or misuse his messages to justify misogynistic attitudes or behaviors. For instance, some men involved in the “manosphere”—online communities that often promote anti-feminist views—cite Peterson’s work to support their beliefs.

The Myth of Competence

Peterson’s idea hinges on the assumption that current hierarchies are based on competence, yet history tells a different story. Power has historically been concentrated in the hands of men, not because they were inherently more capable, but because systemic barriers excluded women from the playing field.

Women were denied education, property ownership, voting rights, and access to professions for centuries. Were women less competent during those times? No. They were simply barred from the opportunities to demonstrate their abilities. Even today, women continue to face discrimination in hiring, promotion, and pay, despite equal—or superior—qualifications.

Competence, as Peterson frames it, has often been defined by physical strength or aggression—traits that may have been advantageous in a hunter-gatherer society but are irrelevant in a modern, knowledge-based economy. If we truly prioritized competence today, we would see women leading at every level. Why? Because women’s leadership traits, like empathy, collaboration, and long-term vision, are the exact qualities needed to solve our most pressing global challenges.

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Why Women Should Lead the World

1. Women Prioritize Safety and Community Well-Being

Research shows that women in leadership roles are more likely to prioritize policies that benefit families, children, and communities. A world led by women would likely experience fewer wars. Men have historically driven conflicts, often for ego or power, while women are statistically more likely to prioritize peace and diplomacy. Empathy and a nurturing approach to conflict resolution are not signs of weakness; they are signs of strength.

2. Women Are Systematically Held Back

Peterson’s claim of a merit-based hierarchy conveniently ignores the systemic barriers women face. Consider the following:

The Gender Pay Gap: Women are paid less for the same work, even when they have the same qualifications and experience. This disparity compounds over a lifetime, affecting everything from homeownership to retirement savings.

The Pink Tax: Women are charged more for products and services simply because they’re marketed to women.

Unpaid Labor: Women do the majority of unpaid labor, including child-rearing, elder care, and household management. This work, essential to the functioning of society, is undervalued and unrecognized economically.

Violence and Harassment: Women disproportionately experience domestic violence, sexual harassment, and abuse, often with little systemic support to ensure their safety.

These factors demonstrate that women start life at a significant disadvantage. The idea that they simply “aren’t competent enough” to rise through the ranks is laughable when they are actively being held back.

3. A World With Women in Power Would Be Safer

If women ruled the world, we would likely see policies that prioritize the safety and well-being of all. Studies have shown that women are more likely to invest in social services, healthcare, and education—areas that directly improve the quality of life for families and communities.

For example, women leaders are more likely to focus on food security, ensuring resources are distributed equitably. In contrast, male-dominated power structures often prioritize profit over people, leading to inequality and instability.

Additionally, empathy—a trait often associated with women—is crucial for addressing issues like climate change and global poverty. Women are more likely to take a long-term view of these challenges, focusing on sustainability rather than short-term gains.

Jordan Peterson Quote

“The patriarchy is just a name terrible intellectuals have given to the competence hierarchy that makes the world work.”

The Systematic Oppression of Women

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Peterson’s narrative erases the systemic oppression that has shaped gender dynamics. Patriarchal systems have long controlled access to power, resources, and opportunities, ensuring that men remain dominant. These systems are not natural or inevitable; they are constructed and upheld by those in power.

Even today, women in leadership positions face more scrutiny and criticism than their male counterparts. They are judged not only on their competence but also on their appearance, demeanor, and personal lives—standards that men are rarely held to.

If we were to dismantle these barriers, we would see a world where women excel, not because of quotas or “special treatment,” but because they are equally—if not more—competent.

Toxic Narratives Harm Everyone

The idea of competence as defined by physical dominance or traditional gender roles doesn’t just harm women; it harms men too. It forces men into rigid expectations of masculinity, discouraging emotional vulnerability, caregiving, and collaboration.

A society that values empathy and cooperation benefits everyone. Men, too, would thrive in a world where success isn’t defined by aggression or dominance but by collaboration and emotional intelligence.

Conclusion: A Call for True Competence

If we truly want a merit-based society, we need to dismantle the systems that have historically excluded women. Competence isn’t about physical strength or aggression—it’s about the ability to lead with vision, empathy, and resilience. Women have demonstrated these qualities time and again, often in the face of systemic barriers.

A world led by women would be safer, more equitable, and more sustainable. It’s time to reject the toxic narratives that perpetuate oppression and embrace a future where leadership is based on true competence—one that values humanity over hierarchy.

    Additional Controversy – Articles and Video about Jordan B Peterson’s Addiction, Pushing Forced Monogamy, Love for Horror and Russia and Lack of Accountability – Dr. Peterson Not Walking His Talk 

    Here is an article about Jordan B Peterson’s Addiction

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    Exerpt from New York Times, article written by Nellie Bowles

    Dr. Jordan B Peterson wants forced monogamy to prevent misogynistic murders by incels. 

    “Mr. Peterson’s home is a carefully curated house of horror. He has filled it with a sprawl of art that covers the walls from floor to ceiling. Most of it is communist propaganda from the Soviet Union (execution scenes, soldiers looking noble) — a constant reminder, he says, of atrocities and oppression. He wants to feel their imprisonment, though he lives here on a quiet residential street in Toronto and is quite free.”

    “Recently, a young man named Alek Minassian drove through Toronto trying to kill people with his van. Ten were killed, and he has been charged with first-degree murder for their deaths, and with attempted murder for 16 people who were injured. Mr. Minassian declared himself to be part of a misogynist group whose members call themselves incels. The term is short for “involuntary celibates,” though the group has evolved into a male supremacist movement made up of people — some celibate, some not — who believe that women should be treated as sexual objects with few rights. Some believe in forced “sexual redistribution,” in which a governing body would intervene in women’s lives to force them into sexual relationships.

    Violent attacks are what happens when men do not have partners, Mr. Peterson says, and society needs to work to make sure those men are married.

    “He was angry at God because women were rejecting him,” Mr. Peterson says of the Toronto killer. “The cure for that is enforced monogamy. That’s actually why monogamy emerges.”

    Mr. Peterson does not pause when he says this. Enforced monogamy is, to him, simply a rational solution. Otherwise women will all only go for the most high-status men, he explains, and that couldn’t make either gender happy in the end.

    “Half the men fail,” he says, meaning that they don’t procreate. “And no one cares about the men who fail.”

    I laugh, because it is absurd.

    “You’re laughing about them,” he says, giving me a disappointed look. “That’s because you’re female.”

    But aside from interventions that would redistribute sex, Mr. Peterson is staunchly against what he calls “equality of outcomes,” or efforts to equalize society. He usually calls them pathological or evil.

    He agrees that this is inconsistent. But preventing hordes of single men from violence, he believes, is necessary for the stability of society. Enforced monogamy helps neutralize that.

    What are your views and concerns about Jordan Peterson’s influence on young insecure men?

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    Throughout history, the struggle for women’s rights has seen victories and setbacks. From the suffrage movement of the early 20th century to the MeToo movement of today, women have fought tirelessly for equality and autonomy. However, in recent years, we’re witnessing a troubling trend: a rollback of hard-won rights and an increase in cultural pressures that keep women from progressing. This isn’t just happening in one country or area; it’s a global regression, affecting various aspects of women’s lives, from legal rights and social expectations to body image and mental health.

    This article explores the ways in which women’s rights are facing new challenges across the world, the cultural forces amplifying these issues, and why we need to stay vigilant and united to protect the progress we’ve made.

     

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    Author: Ami Elsius

    The Price of Being a Woman: A System Rigged from the Start

    As I write this, I feel my blood boiling, sadness welling up in my chest, and tears falling. I knew the system was unfair. I knew women were disadvantaged in countless ways. But even as someone who advocates for equality, I didn’t realize it was this bad. The numbers alone are appalling. In Iceland—the most gender-equal country in the world according to the 2023 Global Gender Gap Report—women still face a financial burden of $2,500 more per month than men. And in the United States, often hailed as progressive, that figure jumps to a staggering $4,067 per month or $2.3 million over a lifetime.

    Let me say that again: the financial price of being born a woman in a modern, developed country is millions of dollars over a lifetime. Millions.

    If this is the state of affairs in so-called progressive societies, imagine the plight of women in nations where gender equality isn’t even a part of the conversation. This isn’t just about a financial imbalance. It’s about a system that, from the moment we are born, is rigged against us in ways both obvious and insidious.

     

    Groomed from the Start

    From our earliest days, society begins preparing us for compliance, subservience, and accommodation roles. It starts subtly—look at the clothes marketed to children. Little boys wear t-shirts with lions, dinosaurs, and t-rexes, symbols of power and dominance. Girls are given bunnies, kittens, and soft pastel tones—symbols of gentleness, fragility, and compliance. We are groomed to nurture, accommodate, and serve, while boys are primed to conquer, dominate, and rule.

    Hollywood, advertising, media, music, and even children’s books reinforce these roles. From romanticized images of women sacrificing for love to advertising that centers on women serving their families with the perfect smile, we are taught early to put others first and diminish our own needs.

    Even as adults, these subtle messages continue. The workplace remains patriarchal, with men occupying most positions of power. Women who challenge this are labeled “difficult” or “bossy,” while men who assert themselves are called “leaders.” Academia, politics, and corporate boardrooms—all the spaces that shape society—remain bastions of male dominance.

    And yet, this oppression is so systematic, so embedded in every corner of life, that many don’t even see it.

    The Financial Cost of Oppression

    While this article focuses on the financial disparity, the price women pay is more than money. It’s the mental load of caregiving. It’s the unpaid household labor that goes unnoticed. It’s the beauty standards we are forced to meet, spending thousands to conform to societal ideals created to please men.

    Even our safety comes at a price. Women spend significantly more on taxis, rideshares, and home security systems simply to avoid harassment or assault. And let’s not forget the hidden costs of abuse recovery—therapy, lost wages, and lifelong trauma—stemming from a world where 1 in 6 women is a victim of sexual assault and 1 in 33 men.

    The patriarchy doesn’t just want us compliant—it wants us drained. Drained of money, drained of energy, drained of power. And it works.

    What Are They So Afraid Of?

    What is it that men—specifically those who cling to patriarchal structures—are so afraid of? Perhaps it’s because when women rise, entire communities thrive. When women gain wealth, they invest in their families and uplift their communities. The data is clear: educating and empowering women creates a ripple effect of prosperity, safety, and well-being that benefits everyone.

    Contrast this with men, who are statistically more likely to spend on themselves. When women succeed, the world becomes kinder, more equitable, and more sustainable. There would be less war, less greed, and fewer power plays.

    So why the resistance?

    Because empowering women means relinquishing control. It means admitting that the patriarchy was never about fairness or justice—it was about dominance, fear, and insecurity.

    Should Men and Women Split the Bills?

    Given all of this, is splitting the bills truly a feminist act? Or is it a convenient distraction from the real issues? Asking women to share equally in costs while ignoring the millions of dollars they lose over a lifetime due to systemic inequalities is not equality—it’s ignorance of the broader picture.

    Modern men who genuinely advocate for gender equality must understand this disparity and ask themselves: What am I doing to challenge the system? It’s not about splitting restaurant checks or dividing household expenses. It’s about acknowledging that, as things stand, the system isn’t 50/50—it’s 80/20 at best.

    True equality requires action: sharing caregiving responsibilities, addressing workplace disparities, dismantling societal beauty standards, and creating policies that promote equity.

    This isn’t just a fight for women—it’s a fight for a better world. And it’s time men joined the battle, not as equals in the trenches, but as allies willing to lift the burden off those who have carried it far too long.

    1. Earnings Disparity

    On average, women in the United States earn about 83 cents for every dollar a man earns in the same job. Over a lifetime of work (from age 18 to 65), women earn approximately $400,000 to $1,000,000 less than men in cumulative salary, depending on the profession and educational background.


    2. Time Lost to Care Responsibilities

    Women often shoulder a disproportionate share of caregiving responsibilities, both for children and elderly parents. Over a lifetime, this includes:

    • Menstrual Pain and Childbirth Recovery: Women lose an estimated 9-12 days annually due to severe menstrual pain and childbirth-related recovery. Over a lifetime, this adds up to 1.5 to 2 years of lost work.

    • Childcare and Elderly Care: Women spend an average of 10 years of their adult lives caring for children and ageing family members, significantly more than men.

    Lost Work Time Due to Menstrual Pain and Childbirth Recovery

    • 9-12 days per year = approximately 1.5 to 2 years of lost work over a lifetime (from age 18 to 65).

    • Assuming an average annual income of $60,000 (based on U.S. median earnings for full-time workers), this translates to:

      • $90,000 to $120,000 in lifetime wage loss.


    Lost Work Time Due to Childcare and Elderly Care

    • Women spend an average of 10 years (or roughly 25% of their adult working lives) caring for children and elderly family members.

    • If a woman earns $60,000 annually and spends 10 years out of the workforce:

      • This results in $600,000 in lost wages over a lifetime.

    • Even if a woman remains in the workforce but works reduced hours or takes a less demanding (and lower-paying) job to accommodate caregiving responsibilities, the wage loss can still be significant:

      • A reduction in work hours or lower-paying roles could result in a 20-30% decrease in earnings, which could add up to $200,000 to $300,000 in reduced lifetime income.


    Total Lifetime Wage Loss

    When combining lost wages from menstrual pain, childbirth recovery, childcare, and eldercare:

    • $90,000 to $120,000 (menstrual pain and childbirth) +

    • $600,000 (caregiving responsibilities) =

      • $690,000 to $720,000 in total estimated lifetime wage loss.

    • For women who remain in the workforce but make adjustments due to caregiving, the total loss is still significant, ranging from $290,000 to $420,000 due to reduced opportunities and hours.


    The Gendered Cost of Health: Medical Expenses and Systemic Bias

    Women in the United States face significant financial burdens due to healthcare expenses, many of which are unique to their gender. Below is an overview of average costs for various medical services and products:

    Contraceptive Pills: The cost of contraceptive pills varies widely, ranging from $0 to $50 per month, depending on the brand and whether insurance covers it. Without insurance, annual expenses can total up to $600.

    Intrauterine Devices (IUDs): An IUD can cost between $500 and $1,300, including insertion. While the upfront cost is high, IUDs are effective for 3 to 10 years, potentially reducing long-term expenses.

    Mammograms: The average cost of a mammogram is about $100 to $250. Annual screenings are recommended for women over 40, leading to lifetime costs of approximately $3,000 to $7,500.

    Pap Smears: A Pap smear typically costs between $39 and $125. With screenings recommended every three years, the lifetime cost ranges from $500 to $1,500.

    Prenatal Vitamins: These essential supplements cost about $15 to $30 per month. Over a typical 9-month pregnancy, the total expense is approximately $135 to $270.

    Painkillers for Menstrual Cramps: Over-the-counter pain relievers cost around $5 to $10 per month. Over a reproductive lifetime (approximately 35 years), this totals $2,100 to $4,200.

    Childbirth Costs: The average cost of childbirth in the U.S. is about $14,768 for a vaginal delivery and $26,280 for a cesarean section. Out-of-pocket expenses average $2,655 and $3,214, respectively, after insurance.

    Abortion Costs: The cost of an abortion varies based on gestation period and method. For instance, medical abortions under 10 weeks can cost between $400 and $600.

    Additional Considerations:

    • Gender Bias in Medical Research: Historically, medical research has predominantly involved male subjects, leading to a lack of understanding of female-specific health issues. This bias contributes to misdiagnoses and delayed treatments for women.Medical News Today

       

    • Misdiagnosis and Delayed Treatment: Women are more likely to be misdiagnosed, especially for conditions like heart disease, where symptoms differ from men’s. This leads to prolonged suffering and increased medical expenses.Medical News Today

       

    • Healthcare Costs: Women in the U.S. face higher out-of-pocket healthcare costs than men, with an estimated $15 billion greater annual expenditure. This disparity persists even when excluding maternity-related services.World Economic Forum

    3. The Pink Tax: A Lifetime Cost for Women

    The Pink Tax refers to the practice of pricing products marketed to women higher than similar products marketed to men. Women pay an average of 7% more for everyday personal care items, such as menstrual products, haircuts, razors, and skincare.

    • On average, women spend an extra $1,500 annually on these essential items compared to men.

    • Over a lifetime (from age 18 to 81, assuming 63 years of adulthood), this amounts to approximately $94,500 in additional essential expenses.

    Key Examples of the Pink Tax:

    1. Menstrual Products: Considered essential, yet taxed as luxury goods in many countries, costing women hundreds annually.

    2. Haircuts: Haircuts for women are often priced 30-50% higher than men’s, even for similar services.

    3. Razors and Skincare Products: Nearly identical items are often marketed differently, with women’s versions carrying a higher price tag.

    The Hidden Costs

    These additional expenses, compounded over decades, create a significant financial disparity that disproportionately impacts women. Combined with lower lifetime earnings due to the gender wage gap and caregiving responsibilities, the Pink Tax exacerbates the economic disadvantages women face throughout their lives.

    This highlights the need for policy changes, such as removing taxes on menstrual products, regulating gender-based pricing, and promoting financial equality.


    4. Unpaid Household Labor

    Women perform the majority of unpaid household chores, including cooking, cleaning, laundry, and organizing. If translated into paid work, this additional labor is valued at $25,000 annually. Over a lifetime, this unpaid contribution totals over $1 million.


    5. Childcare Costs

    Women typically spend more time and money on childcare than men. Women dedicate 60-70% more time to child-rearing activities. Throughout raising two children, this disparity can cost a woman an additional $300,000 in lost wages, reduced career advancement, and out-of-pocket expenses for childcare services.


    Bell Hooks Quote

     “Feminism is for everybody.” 

    “The function of art is to do more than tell it like it is – it’s to imagine what is possible.” 

     

    6. The Hidden Costs of Abuse and Mental Health Recovery

    Women in the United States disproportionately experience abuse—physical, emotional, sexual, and psychological—compared to men, leading to significant long-term financial and emotional consequences. The aftereffects of this abuse often extend beyond immediate trauma, deeply impacting mental health, career opportunities, and overall quality of life. Here’s a breakdown of how this disparity manifests.


    Abuse Prevalence and Gender Comparison

    Sexual Assault

    • Women: 1 in 6 women in the U.S. experiences attempted or completed rape in her lifetime.

    • Men: 1 in 33 men reports similar experiences (RAINN).

    Domestic Violence

    • Women: 1 in 4 women experiences severe physical violence from an intimate partner.

    • Men: 1 in 9 men reports similar violence (NCADV).

    These statistics underscore the vastly unequal burden women face, which is amplified by the financial and psychological costs of recovery.


    The Financial Impact of Recovery

    Women face substantial out-of-pocket expenses for recovery, including:

    • Mental Health Treatment

      • Antidepressants and Medication: $500–$1,200 annually, depending on the type and duration of treatment.

      • Psychological Therapy: At $100–$250 per session, a survivor may spend $30,000–$100,000 or more over a lifetime to heal.

      • Specialized Support: Programs, workshops, and support groups for trauma recovery can add thousands to the financial toll.

    • Missed Workdays
      Survivors of severe abuse lose an estimated 30–50 workdays annually due to mental health struggles like PTSD, anxiety, or depression. These absences lead to lost wages, compounding their financial burden.

    • Career Interruptions
      Many women experience job loss or career stagnation as a result of the immediate effects of abuse or the long-term psychological impact. Over a lifetime, this can translate to earnings losses of $200,000–$400,000.


    Abuse Costs: A Gendered Disparity

    When considering the financial toll of abuse, the disparity between women and men is stark. Abuse recovery costs for women include significant expenditures on therapy, medication, and lost income due to caregiving and trauma recovery. Men, while not immune to abuse, face fewer disruptions in work and mental health treatment costs, reflecting the gendered nature of these challenges.

    The average cost of abuse and its aftermath for a woman in the United States is approximately $57,500 over her lifetime. For a man, the cost is significantly lower, averaging around $10,455.



    7. Divorce and Financial Manipulation

    Divorce disproportionately impacts women, particularly when leaving abusive or manipulative partners. Studies show that men often hide assets or use financial manipulation during divorce proceedings. Women typically receive 30-50% less in financial settlements, translating to a $100,000 to $500,000 loss over their post-divorce lives.


    8. The Cost of Toxic Beauty Standards: A Gendered Burden

    Societal pressure for women to meet patriarchal beauty standards imposes significant financial burdens. On average, women spend $250,000 to $300,000 over their lifetimes on beauty-related expenses, including makeup, skincare, anti-aging products, and salon services.

    In comparison, men spend significantly less, averaging around $50,000 to $75,000 over their lifetimes on grooming and personal care. This disparity reflects the disproportionate expectations placed on women to conform to unattainable beauty ideals—a pressure rooted in the patriarchal norms that define women’s value by their appearance.


    Beauty Standards and Patriarchal Expectations

    Much of women’s spending is influenced by societal norms that prioritize male validation. From flawless skin to youthful appearances, beauty standards are often designed to cater to male preferences, perpetuated by media, advertising, and cultural norms.

    For instance:

    • Makeup is marketed as essential to appear “professional” or “attractive,” a pressure rarely applied to men.

    • Anti-aging products exploit fears of aging, which disproportionately target women while men are praised for “aging gracefully.”

    • Salon services, like hair styling and waxing, are promoted as necessities, with women often paying more for the same services compared to men.

    These standards not only drain women financially but also create emotional pressure to “earn” societal approval through their appearance.


    Spending to Please, Not for Personal Fulfillment

    While some women invest in beauty for self-expression or confidence, much of this spending stems from the need to meet male-centric expectations. Studies show that many women feel obligated to conform to these standards to be taken seriously at work, to attract partners, or to avoid judgment in social settings.

    The financial and emotional toll of these beauty expectations represents yet another layer of economic inequality that women face. Addressing this disparity requires not only recognizing the societal roots of toxic beauty standards but also dismantling the systems that perpetuate them.

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    9. The Financial Cost of Safety: A Gendered Burden

    Women in the United States face a disproportionate financial burden to ensure their safety compared to men. This discrepancy arises from the significantly higher likelihood of women experiencing sexual harassment or assault. The additional costs of staying safe, often unavoidable, further widen the financial gap between genders.

    Taxis and Rideshares

    For women, walking or taking public transportation late at night often feels unsafe due to the heightened risk of harassment or assault. As a result, women frequently opt for taxis or rideshares as a safer alternative. Over a lifetime, this adds up to approximately $100,000 for women, compared to only $10,000 to $20,000 for men, who are less likely to perceive or face safety threats in public spaces.

    Home Security

    Women also invest more in home security measures such as alarm systems, additional locks, or surveillance equipment to feel secure in their own homes. These expenses average $5,000 to $10,000 over a lifetime for women, compared to $2,000 to $4,000 for men, who are statistically less likely to feel the need for such precautions.

    Legal and Advocacy Costs

    In cases of harassment or assault, women are more likely to require legal assistance, such as filing restraining orders, pursuing justice in court, or seeking advocacy services. These costs range from $3,000 to $20,000 over a lifetime for women, compared to $1,000 to $5,000 for men.

    The Total Cost of Safety

    Adding up these categories, women spend an estimated $108,000 to $130,000 over their lifetimes on safety-related expenses. In contrast, men spend far less, averaging $13,000 to $29,000. This represents an additional $95,000 to $117,000 that women are forced to pay simply to feel and stay safe.

    Wangari Maathai Quote

    “It’s the little things citizens do. That’s what will make the difference. My little thing is planting trees.” 

    “I don’t really know why I care so much. I just have something inside me that tells me that there is a problem and I have to do something about it.”

     

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    The Lifetime Gender Disparity: A Male and Female Comparison

    Women face a starkly different financial reality than men, shaped by a combination of societal expectations, systemic inequalities, and gender-specific burdens. When considering factors like earnings, unpaid labor, abuse recovery, safety measures, and societal pressures, the lifetime cost disparity becomes alarmingly clear.

    1. Lifetime Earnings Gap
      • Women: Women earn 83 cents for every dollar a man earns for the same job. Over a working lifetime (ages 18–65), this amounts to $400,000 to $1,000,000 less in cumulative earnings.

      • Men: Men typically earn higher salaries and experience fewer career interruptions, resulting in more stable lifetime earnings.

    2. Lost Work Time Due to Care Responsibilities
      • Women: Women lose an estimated 1.5–2 years of work due to menstrual pain and childbirth recovery, costing $90,000 to $120,000 in missed wages. Additionally, women spend an average of 10 years on childcare and eldercare, leading to a $600,000 wage loss.

      • Men: Men lose minimal workdays for similar caregiving responsibilities, with average earnings loss ranging from $50,000 to $100,000.

    3. The Pink Tax
      • Women: Women pay an additional $1,500 annually for personal care items like menstrual products, razors, and haircuts. Over a lifetime, this totals $94,500.

      • Men: Men spend significantly less, with similar expenses averaging $50,000 over a lifetime.

    4. Unpaid Household Labor
      • Women: Women perform the majority of household chores, equating to $25,000 annually in unpaid labor. Over a lifetime, this totals over $1 million.

      • Men: Men typically contribute far less to unpaid household labor, with an estimated value of $300,000 to $500,000 over a lifetime.

    5. Childcare Costs
      • Women: Women dedicate 60–70% more time to child-rearing, resulting in an additional $300,000 in lost wages and out-of-pocket childcare expenses.

      • Men: Men’s financial and time contributions to childcare are significantly lower, often resulting in minimal wage losses.

    6. Abuse and Mental Health Recovery Costs
      • Women: Women spend approximately $57,500 over their lifetime on abuse recovery, including therapy, medication, and missed work. Abuse disrupts women’s lives more frequently due to their higher likelihood of being victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.

      • Men: Abuse recovery costs for men average $10,455, reflecting their lower victimization rates and recovery needs.

    7. Beauty Standards
      • Women: Women spend $250,000 to $300,000 on beauty-related expenses over a lifetime due to societal pressures to conform to beauty standards.

      • Men: Men spend $50,000 to $75,000 on grooming, reflecting lower societal demands.

    8. Safety Measures
      • Women: Women spend an estimated $108,000 to $130,000 over a lifetime on safety-related expenses, including taxis, rideshares, home security, and legal costs for protection.

      • Men: Men spend far less, with safety-related expenses averaging $13,000 to $29,000.

    The Grand Total

    When combining these factors, the lifetime financial disparity between women and men becomes staggering:

    • Women: On average, women face an additional $2.2 million to $2.5 million in costs over their lifetime.

    • Men: Men face significantly fewer costs, with lifetime additional expenses totaling $500,000 to $1 million

     

    Should Equality Begin With Splitting Bills?

    In the push for gender equality, some modern men advocate for splitting costs—such as restaurant bills and household expenses—as a symbol of fairness. While this is a step toward financial equality, it overlooks the broader systemic disparities women face. A truly equitable approach considers the following:

    • Unequal Financial Starting Points: Women earn less, pay more for essential items, and take on a greater share of unpaid labor and caregiving.

    • Hidden Costs: Safety measures, abuse recovery, and societal expectations disproportionately impact women, adding financial and emotional strain.

    • Shared Responsibility: True equality means acknowledging and addressing these disparities, not simply splitting immediate costs.

    A Call for True Equality

    Instead of starting with the 50/50 split in restaurants or household expenses, modern men who value equality should consider advocating for broader systemic changes. This includes:

    • Supporting equitable wages and workplace policies.

    • Sharing caregiving and household responsibilities.

    • Challenging societal norms that impose unfair financial and emotional burdens on women.

    By addressing the root causes of inequality, we can create a world where splitting a bill is not a symbolic gesture but a reflection of true fairness.

    May all Beings be Happy, Peaceful and Free
    Lots of Love / Ami Elsius

     

     

     

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    The Global Regression of Women’s Rights

    From Legal Setbacks to Cultural Backlash: The Global Regression of Women’s Rights and How We Can Move Forward

    The Ongoing Struggle for Women’s Rights

    Throughout history, the struggle for women’s rights has seen victories and setbacks. From the suffrage movement of the early 20th century to the MeToo movement of today, women have fought tirelessly for equality and autonomy. However, in recent years, we’re witnessing a troubling trend: a rollback of hard-won rights and an increase in cultural pressures that keep women from progressing. This isn’t just happening in one country or area; it’s a global regression, affecting various aspects of women’s lives, from legal rights and social expectations to body image and mental health.

    This article explores the ways in which women’s rights are facing new challenges across the world, the cultural forces amplifying these issues, and why we need to stay vigilant and united to protect the progress we’ve made.

     

    Legal Setbacks Across the Globe: Erosion of Rights in Law

    Iraq and Afghanistan: A Regressive Shift in Women’s Rights

    In Iraq, proposed amendments could lower the legal age of consent for girls to as young as nine, transferring judicial powers to religious authorities and limiting women’s rights to divorce, inheritance, and custody. Similarly, in Afghanistan, the Taliban’s return to power has devastated women’s rights. Girls are banned from attending school beyond sixth grade, and women are barred from most public life, reversing decades of progress.

    Iraq and Afghanistan: A Regressive Shift in Women’s Rights
In Iraq, proposed amendments could lower the legal age of consent for girls to as young as nine, transferring judicial powers to religious authorities and limiting women’s rights to divorce, inheritance, and custody. Similarly, in Afghanistan, the Taliban’s return to power has devastated women’s rights. Girls are banned from attending school beyond sixth grade, and women are barred from most public life, reversing decades of progress.

    Russia: Decriminalizing Domestic Abuse

    In 2017, Russia amended its laws to decriminalize certain types of domestic violence, making it a civil offence to hit a family member, provided there are no broken bones or major injuries. This change has had devastating consequences for women, as it signals state approval of domestic violence, leaving victims with little recourse. That means that intimate partner violence, like rape, hitting, pushing, whipping…is not a crime, as long as the victim has no broken bones or has severe life-threatening injuries. Even if caught red-handed, the abuser would only get a warning or a fine of no more than 400 USD. 

    Poland: Restricting Reproductive Rights

    Poland’s strict anti-abortion laws virtually banned abortion in 2020, even in cases of severe fetal abnormalities. This has forced women to seek illegal or international options for abortion, placing them in harm’s way and infringing on their reproductive autonomy.

    The United States: Reproductive Rights Under Threat

    The 2022 overturning of Roe v. Wade by the U.S. Supreme Court ended federal protections for abortion rights, allowing individual states to impose their own restrictions. This has resulted in a patchwork of abortion laws, with many states enacting bans or severe restrictions, disproportionately impacting marginalized women.

    Iran: Hijab Laws and the Suppression of Protest
Iran has cracked down on women’s freedoms since the death of Mahsa Amini, who was detained and killed for wearing her hijab “incorrectly.” The protests that followed were met with brutal suppression, further curbing women’s rights to expression and autonomy.

    Iran: Hijab Laws and the Suppression of Protest

    Iran has cracked down on women’s freedoms since the death of Mahsa Amini, who was detained and killed for wearing her hijab “incorrectly.” The protests that followed were met with brutal suppression, further curbing women’s rights to expression and autonomy.

    Malala Yousafzai Quotes

    “We realize the importance of our voice when we are silenced.”

    “Do not wait for someone else to come and speak for you. It’s you who can change the world.” 

     

    Cultural Backlash: A Rise in Toxic Masculinity and the Incel Movement

      The Incel Movement and the Rise of Misogyny

      The incel (involuntary celibate) movement, which fosters a deep-seated resentment toward women, has grown alarmingly in recent years. These online communities advocate violence against women and view them as the root of men’s problems. This toxic ideology often spills into the real world, promoting fear and hostility toward women and perpetuating misogyny.

      Influential Figures and the Spread of “Toxic Masculinity”

      Public figures like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson have gained massive followings by promoting “traditional” gender roles and dismissing women’s concerns about equality and safety. They argue that men are “under attack” and that women should return to submissive roles. Their influence has helped normalize harmful attitudes, leading young men to adopt misogynistic views under the guise of self-improvement.

      Influential Figures and the Spread of “Toxic Masculinity”
Public figures like Andrew Tate and Jordan Peterson have gained massive followings by promoting “traditional” gender roles and dismissing women’s concerns about equality and safety. They argue that men are "under attack" and that women should return to submissive roles. Their influence has helped normalize harmful attitudes, leading young men to adopt misogynistic views under the guise of self-improvement.

      Defamation Lawsuits and Smear Campaigns Against Women

      In a post-MeToo era, a backlash has emerged, where women who speak up about abuse often face defamation lawsuits or public smear campaigns. This trend aims to silence survivors by painting them as liars or attention-seekers. In many cases, women risk their reputations, careers, and financial stability to share their stories, only to be attacked legally and publicly.

      Malala Yousafzai Quotes

      “We realize the importance of our voice when we are silenced.”

      “Do not wait for someone else to come and speak for you. It’s you who can change the world.” 

       

      Unrealistic Beauty Standards: A New Form of Control Over Women’s Bodies

      The Dangerous Rise of Cosmetic Interventions

      While corsets and foot-binding may seem like distant relics of patriarchy, today’s beauty standards are not much different. The pressure to undergo extreme cosmetic procedures—such as lip fillers, breast implants, and Brazilian Butt Lifts (BBLs)—is immense. Social media, filtered images, and celebrity culture have created a “perfect” female image that is unattainable without invasive procedures. Botox and fillers are now normalized for women as young as their 20s, despite the health risks.

      Toxic Beauty Products and Cultural Pressure

      Many beauty products, like skin-lightening creams and harsh hair treatments, contain toxic chemicals but are marketed as essential for women to feel “beautiful” and “youthful.” The relentless pressure to conform to narrow beauty ideals forces women to invest time, money, and energy into an image that ultimately serves patriarchal views on femininity.

      The Dangerous Rise of Cosmetic Interventions
While corsets and foot-binding may seem like distant relics of patriarchy, today’s beauty standards are not much different. The pressure to undergo extreme cosmetic procedures—such as lip fillers, breast implants, and Brazilian Butt Lifts (BBLs)—is immense. Social media, filtered images, and celebrity culture have created a “perfect” female image that is unattainable without invasive procedures. Botox and fillers are now normalized for women as young as their 20s, despite the health risks.
      Riane Eisler Quotes

      “The real struggle is not between East and West, or capitalism and communism, but between the forces of partnership and domination.”

       

      Jane Goodall Quotes

      “What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.”  “You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you.”

       

      The “1950s Housewife” Trend on Social Media: A Glamorous Glorification of Traditional Gender Roles

      In recent years, a surprising trend has emerged on social media, with young women romanticizing the lifestyle of the 1950s housewife. This nostalgic view of traditional gender roles has become a curated, aesthetic-driven movement, where women portray themselves as devoted housewives who focus on homemaking, baking, and “serving” their husbands. Through stylized videos and vintage-inspired photos, this trend glorifies a life where women willingly give up independence, career ambitions, and personal decision-making to embrace a role centered around pleasing and supporting their husbands.

      The “1950s Housewife” or "Tradwife"Trend on Social Media: A Glamorous Glorification of Traditional Gender Roles

      But what’s troubling is that these portrayals often idealize a lifestyle without acknowledging the limitations and lack of autonomy women faced during the actual 1950s. The focus tends to be on beautiful kitchens, family recipes, and harmonious home scenes, glossing over the restrictions and social pressures that shaped women’s lives at that time. Instead, the trend promotes a version of femininity where a woman’s worth is tied to her ability to maintain a perfect household, raise children, and prioritize her partner’s needs above her own.

      The “1950s Housewife” or "Tradwife"Trend on Social Media: A Glamorous Glorification of Traditional Gender Roles

      A Manufactured Reality: The Influence of Social Media and Monetization

      Many influencers promoting this “traditional wife” lifestyle are not, in fact, living it themselves. Instead, they market this role as a brand, attracting followers who romanticize the idea and buy into products and courses on homemaking or “submissive” relationships. In many cases, these influencers are making money by selling a fantasy that does not align with their real lives. This creates a deceptive narrative that encourages women to model their lives after an idealized version of the past, often leading to unrealistic expectations about family life, relationships, and self-worth.

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      Leymah Gbowee Quote

      “You can never leave footprints that last if you are always walking on tiptoe.”

      If you educate a man, you educate one person. If you educate a woman, you educate a nation.”

      Why This Trend is Problematic: Reinforcing Dependency and Limiting Self-Worth

      While it’s perfectly valid for individuals to choose a traditional family structure if that’s their preference, this trend becomes problematic when it suggests that a woman’s purpose and fulfillment lie solely in pleasing a man and managing a household. It promotes the idea that women should be dependent on men for financial stability, decision-making, and personal happiness. This message discourages self-sufficiency, independence, and resilience—all qualities that are essential for navigating the modern world.

      Moreover, this trend can create subtle pressures on young women who are still figuring out their identities and life goals. Seeing influencers glorify a lifestyle where women sacrifice their ambitions for a man’s well-being can make it harder for young women to believe in their right to personal fulfillment and independence. And unlike women in the 1950s, who had limited access to careers and financial independence, today’s women have far more choices—a fact that this trend tends to obscure or dismiss.

      Why This Tradwife Trend is Problematic: Reinforcing Dependency and Limiting Self-Worth

      A Step Backward in a Time of Hard-Won Progress

      The popularity of this trend can be seen as a response to the pressures of modern life, where high expectations and the pursuit of equality have sometimes left women feeling overwhelmed. Some may find comfort in a simpler, slower way of life that recalls traditional values. However, by idealizing this 1950s aesthetic without addressing the real limitations it placed on women’s lives, the trend risks romanticizing an era of restricted rights and choices.

      In this way, the “traditional housewife” trend is more than just a harmless social media fad; it reflects a broader cultural backlash against women’s independence. It subtly encourages women to relinquish their autonomy, fall into conventional roles, and depend on men, rather than emphasizing partnership, equality, and self-development. With a growing focus on these outdated roles, we risk normalizing the very limitations that past feminist movements fought so hard to overcome.

      Gloria Steinem Quote

      “A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.” 10. “The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”

      Why We Must Stay Critical of Retrograde Narratives

      The glamorization of traditional gender roles, like that of the 1950s housewife, should remind us of the dangers of idealizing the past without recognizing its challenges. While everyone has the right to choose their lifestyle, promoting a narrative that prioritizes dependency over empowerment threatens to set back the progress made in women’s rights. As we face a growing wave of legal, cultural, and social challenges to women’s autonomy, it’s more essential than ever to support narratives that empower women to make choices freely, based on their true desires and potential, not on aestheticized ideals.

      Historical Patterns: How Women’s Rights Have Been Rolled Back Over Time

      The history of women’s rights is filled with both progress and regression, showing us just how precarious these hard-won freedoms can be.

      Iran in the 1970s: A Stark Transformation

      In the 1970s, women in Iran enjoyed considerable freedoms: they wore modern clothing, attended university alongside men, and even participated in government. The social and cultural environment supported self-expression, and it wasn’t uncommon to see women in bikinis at the beach. However, after the 1979 Islamic Revolution, women’s rights took a dramatic step backward. Mandatory hijabs, restrictions on public behavior, and limits on education and employment drastically changed women’s lives, transforming Iran into a society where women’s autonomy and freedoms were sharply curtailed. Today, Iranian women still resist these restrictions, but the freedoms they enjoyed just a few decades ago remain out of reach for many.

      Nazi Germany: A Regression in Women’s Roles

      In the 1920s and early 1930s, women in Germany experienced unprecedented rights. They had the right to vote, pursued higher education, and joined the workforce in increasing numbers. However, with the rise of the Nazi regime, women were pushed out of professional roles and barred from certain levels of education, encouraged instead to focus on traditional roles of motherhood and domesticity. The regime promoted a strict vision of gender roles, limiting women’s autonomy and relegating them to the private sphere. This reversal demonstrates how political shifts can quickly undo societal progress.

      Iran in the 1970s: A Stark Transformation
In the 1970s, women in Iran enjoyed considerable freedoms: they wore modern clothing, attended university alongside men, and even participated in government. The social and cultural environment supported self-expression, and it wasn’t uncommon to see women in bikinis at the beach. However, after the 1979 Islamic Revolution, women’s rights took a dramatic step backward. Mandatory hijabs, restrictions on public behavior, and limits on education and employment drastically changed women’s lives, transforming Iran into a society where women’s autonomy and freedoms were sharply curtailed. Today, Iranian women still resist these restrictions, but the freedoms they enjoyed just a few decades ago remain out of reach for many.

      The United States in the 1940s and 1950s: Post-War Regression

      During World War II, American women entered the workforce in droves, taking on roles in manufacturing and other sectors traditionally dominated by men. The iconic image of “Rosie the Riveter” embodied the spirit of women’s empowerment and contribution to the war effort. However, after the war, women were encouraged to leave their jobs to make room for returning male soldiers. The 1950s saw a cultural push for women to return to domestic life, promoting an ideal of the “perfect housewife.” This shift sent a powerful message that women’s progress was contingent upon societal needs and expectations.

      The Suffrage Movement and Backlash in the Early 20th Century

      At the turn of the century, women around the world began winning the right to vote and participate in public life. However, this progress was met with intense backlash, with critics arguing that women’s suffrage threatened traditional family values. In the U.S., for example, the suffrage movement spurred anti-feminist groups to form, fighting to curb women’s rights to work and vote. Even after gaining the vote, many women were still excluded from meaningful roles in politics and society, and had to continue fighting against deeply ingrained resistance to their newfound rights.

       

      Audre Lorde Quote

      “I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own.”

      Western Women’s Liberation Movements: Gains and Losses

      The women’s liberation movements of the 1960s and 1970s brought radical changes across Europe and North America. Women fought for reproductive rights, access to contraception, and workplace equality. In many ways, these movements were successful, paving the way for advancements in women’s autonomy. However, the backlash was swift. In the 1980s, a conservative wave rolled through much of the West, with growing opposition to abortion rights, restrictions on access to contraception, and cultural pressures pushing women back toward traditional roles. This ebb and flow shows how even within progressive societies, women’s rights can become a target for conservative and reactionary forces.

      Eastern Europe After the Fall of Communism

      Under communist regimes, Eastern European countries often promoted women’s roles in the workforce and provided some forms of state-supported childcare and reproductive health services. However, after the fall of communism, many of these services were dismantled, and there was a push for women to return to traditional domestic roles. In countries like Poland and Hungary, reproductive rights and access to family planning services were significantly restricted in the years that followed, demonstrating how shifts in political ideology can directly impact women’s lives and autonomy.

      The Path Forward: Working Together with Understanding and Compassion

       

      Education and Awareness

      Creating awareness about these regressions in women’s rights is essential. Both men and women need to understand that these issues are not just “women’s problems” but societal issues that affect everyone.

       

      Empowering Women to Reject Unrealistic Standards

      Women can reclaim control by challenging beauty standards and advocating for self-acceptance. The pressure to conform to impossible beauty ideals diminishes when women unite to celebrate authenticity, diversity, and personal choice.

      Engaging Men as Allies

      To make lasting progress, it’s crucial to involve men in the conversation. Approaching these discussions with empathy and understanding, rather than hostility, helps prevent defensiveness and encourages men to become allies. Men who understand the importance of equality can play a powerful role in countering the spread of toxic masculinity and supporting the fight for women’s rights.

      Supporting Women’s Rights Organizations Globally

      International support for organizations that protect women’s rights is critical. Groups like RAINN, Amnesty International, UN Women, International Rescue Committee (IRC)Equality Now and local grassroots organizations provide resources and advocacy that help maintain momentum for women’s rights worldwide.

      A Call to Stay Vigilant and United

      The fight for women’s rights is far from over. While progress has been made, the rise of conservative laws, toxic cultural trends, and unrealistic beauty standards are challenging that progress on multiple fronts. History reminds us that women’s rights are not guaranteed—they require vigilance, unity, and a commitment to continuous advocacy.

      The global regression of women’s rights highlights the importance of solidarity and awareness. By addressing these issues with compassion, we can work together to ensure that the progress made is protected and expanded. True gender equality will only be achieved when both women and men stand together to create a world that values dignity, autonomy, and respect for all.

      Lots of Love, may all beings be happy peaceful and free

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      Drugging in Abusive Relationships

      Drugging in Abusive Relationships

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      Drugging in Abusive Relationships and Exploitative Dynamics

      The Hidden Nature of Drugging in Abusive Relationships

      Manipulation Behind Closed Doors

      Drugging in intimate relationships is a weapon of control, used to manipulate a partner’s state of mind and body. Unlike physical violence, which leaves visible marks, drugging is invisible—both literally and figuratively. Abusers often use this method to:

      • Exert Control: Keeping a partner docile and compliant.
      • Facilitate Sexual Abuse: Rendering the victim unable to resist or remember.
      • Create Psychological Dependence: Controlling access to medication or drugs.
      • Isolate and Discredit: Making the victim seem mentally unstable or intoxicated.

      A Closer Look at Drugging Tactics

      In these relationships, drugging can manifest in various forms:

      • Sedation and Submission: Abusers may introduce sedatives into meals or drinks, causing the victim to become unusually drowsy, compliant, or confused. This tactic ensures that the victim doesn’t question the abuser’s actions and remains passive.
      • Surreptitious Drugging: Abusers might disguise a drug as a vitamin, or convince the victim that a certain medication is necessary for health. Over time, this breeds dependency, making it easier for the abuser to exert control over medical care.
      • Psychological Gaslighting: The victim, repeatedly experiencing confusion or lapses in memory, begins to question their reality. This is often accompanied by gaslighting—abusers making the victim feel they are “crazy” or mentally unwell, making them more isolated and dependent.

      Psychological Impacts on Victims

       

      • Loss of Trust in Their Own Judgment: Constant drugging leads to severe confusion, fostering self-doubt.
      • Cognitive Impairment: Prolonged exposure to certain substances can affect memory, decision-making, and emotional regulation.
      • Emotional and Mental Isolation: Even if a victim has suspicions about their abuser, the fear of not being believed—or feeling unsure if the events even occurred—can be isolating.
      Drugging in Abusive Relationships and Exploitative Dynamics

      The Story of Giselle Pericot

      A Survivor’s Fight for Justice

      In 2020, Gisèle Pelicot discovered she had been the victim of a decade-long nightmare. Her husband of 50 years, Dominique Pelicot, had been secretly drugging her with sedatives and inviting strangers into their home to rape her while she lay unconscious in bed. The abuse came to light when Dominique was arrested for attempting to take illicit photos in a supermarket, leading police to uncover his extensive digital archive. What they found shocked everyone: thousands of images and videos documenting assaults on Gisèle, as well as explicit evidence of the meticulous planning behind these crimes.

      “It’s not for us to have shame—it’s for them” she told the courtroom making it clear that her decision to open the trial to the public was a conscious choice to shift the burden of shame from victims to perpetrators. “I want all women who have been raped to say: Madame Pelicot did it, I can too. I don’t want them to be ashamed any longer,” she emphasized, hoping her courage would empower other victims to come forward.

      Despite years of confusion over health problems, which she initially attributed to early Alzheimer’s or another illness, it was only in 2020 that Gisèle learned the real cause. Dominique had been secretly administering crushed sleeping pills in her food and drink, causing “total blackouts” that lasted through the night. In those moments, he would not only violate her but invite others to join him, orchestrating over 200 assaults with more than 90 different men, according to investigators.

      Gisèle’s willingness to share her story and expose the videos of the assaults during the trial has made her a symbol of resilience. For her, it’s about more than personal justice—it’s about societal change. “Bravery means jumping into the sea to rescue someone. I just have will and determination,” she said. Her testimony underscores the courage it takes to face trauma publicly, especially when that trauma involves a loved one’s betrayal.

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      Drugging as a Tool for Sexual Exploitation

      Facilitating Sexual Violations

      Sexual abuse facilitated through drugging often leaves victims with fragmented memories or no recollection at all, which can be profoundly disorienting and traumatic. This form of abuse includes:

      • Non-Consensual Recording: Abusers may film or photograph drugged victims during sexual acts, exploiting them when they are most vulnerable.
      • Selling and Sharing Non-Consensual Content: Some abusers distribute images or videos to humiliate the victim, gain control, or even for monetary gain—turning a deeply personal violation into a public spectacle.
      • Profit and Fetishization: Disturbingly, there is a market that fetishizes unconsciousness or drugged partners. Some abusers post videos on adult sites, reinforcing a culture that normalizes exploitation and non-consent.

      The Rise of Revenge Porn and Blackmail

      Drugging often intersects with other abusive tactics, like revenge porn:

      • Blackmail: Threatening to share compromising material becomes a tool to keep victims trapped. The fear of exposure—especially in communities or workplaces where such revelations can cause immense harm—paralyzes many victims from seeking help.
      • Revenge Porn: Posting non-consensual sexual imagery online, sometimes years after the relationship has ended, is a way for abusers to regain control over former partners, using their darkest moments as leverage.

      The Role of the Internet in Facilitating Abuse

      The anonymity and accessibility of the internet allow abusers to distribute non-consensual material with little risk of consequence. Despite increasing awareness and legal measures in some countries, many platforms still fail to protect victims adequately. The process of getting non-consensual material removed can be long, arduous, and re-traumatizing for survivors.

      Research and Case Studies in Drug-Facilitated Abuse

      Famous Cases and Documented Scandals

      The cases of Bill Cosby, Jeffrey Epstein and Sean P. Diddy Combs brought national attention to the concept of drug-facilitated sexual abuse, albeit outside the realm of intimate relationships. These high-profile cases underline the extent to which drugs can be used to manipulate and control.

      • Bill Cosby: Convicted of drugging and sexually assaulting women over a period of years, Cosby’s case was one of the first to shine a spotlight on the long history of drug-facilitated abuse by powerful individuals.
      • Jeffrey Epstein: Allegations involved the use of drugs to incapacitate young women and girls for the purpose of exploitation, revealing a network of systemic abuse and manipulation within elite circles.
      • Sean P. Diddy Combs: With the case still open as I write this, allegedly he would put GHB, Rohynol (known as the date rape drug) in drinks and in baby oil and lotions to facilitate sexual assaults on his victims 

      Documented Cases of Intimate Partner Drugging

      Within intimate relationships, drugging remains vastly underreported, but research is beginning to document its prevalence:

      • The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) reports that up to 20% of women in abusive relationships have experienced substance-related coercion.
      • A UK Study highlighted that coercive control often includes subtle forms of drugging, such as administering or withholding medication without consent.

      Survivor Stories: Shining a Light on Hidden Abuse

      In domestic violence shelters, survivor accounts often reveal that victims only discovered the drugging after leaving the relationship. Some victims described persistent health issues and cognitive fog that lifted once they were free from their abuser’s influence, highlighting the long-term health consequences of covert drugging.

       

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      I have personally met and talked to several women that report being drugged by their partners. One of those women, from Sicily, was drugged by her husband and in-laws to prevent her from pursuing a carer and driving her car, they kept telling her she was better off being a housewife and was to absentminded to be out and about driving. After a car accident when she fell asleep at the wheel (in the middle of the day) and hit a tree. She was thankfully not injured but the hospital took a standard drug test. They found strong sedatives in the samples. She said she he didn’t use any sedatives or sleeping aids. They asked her to come back in a few days and do the test again.  So she did and it still showed she had sedatives in her system. As she insisted she had not taken any, the nurse encouraged her to only consume food and drinks she had personally prepared for the following 10 days and then come back and do the test again. No sedatives in the sample. 

      If in doubt, this is what I suggest you do. Go test yourself at two different times, if you discover traces of drugs you have not taken, go one to two weeks only eating and drinking what you have personally prepared and then do the same test again. 

      Psychological Insights and Expert Opinions

      The Psychology Behind Drugging as a Form of Control

      Psychologists and relationship experts emphasize that drugging is not merely about sex or submission—it’s about power. Lundy Bancroft, a leading expert on abusive relationships, notes that drugging reflects a deep need for control, where the abuser decides not only what the victim does but what they feel and remember.

      Coercive Control: A Broader Understanding

      Drugging falls under the umbrella of coercive control—a pattern of behavior aimed at dominating a partner. This can include physical, emotional, psychological, and financial abuse. Sandra Horley, CEO of Refuge, stresses that drug-facilitated abuse is an “invisible tactic,” making it harder to detect and prosecute but no less damaging.

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      Practical Advice for Victims and Allies

      Recognizing the Warning Signs

      It’s essential to educate both potential victims and their support networks on the warning signs of drugging:

      • Memory Lapses or Confusion: If you often feel disoriented after meals or drinks prepared by your partner, this might indicate tampering.
      • Physical Symptoms: Unusual fatigue, dizziness, or grogginess that occurs sporadically and without clear cause.
      • Behavioral Changes in the Abuser: If a partner insists on controlling food or medication, isolates you from doctors, or becomes defensive when questioned, take note.

      Building a Safety Plan

      Creating a safety plan is crucial if drugging is suspected:

      1. Document Suspicious Events: Keep a hidden journal of your symptoms, documenting dates, times, and what you ate or drank.
      2. Seek Medical Help Discreetly: If possible, see a trusted healthcare professional without your partner present, and request a comprehensive test for potential substances.
      3. Reach Out to Support Services: Contact local domestic violence hotlines or abuse shelters for guidance. They can help create a safe plan for leaving if necessary.

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      Research and Statistics—Understanding the Scope

      Existing Research and the Need for More Data

      Research on drug-facilitated abuse within intimate relationships remains limited, but emerging data highlights its prevalence:

      • Underreporting Due to Stigma and Confusion: Victims of drug-facilitated abuse often don’t realize what’s happening to them until long after the fact. The psychological manipulation associated with this form of abuse—often labeled as “gaslighting”—can leave victims confused, unsure if they are genuinely experiencing abuse or if it’s “all in their head.” This makes accurate statistics difficult to obtain.
      • Studies on Domestic Abuse Shelters: In one UK-based study, many women seeking refuge reported that their partners controlled their access to medication, either by withholding it or by administering it without their consent. These cases are often intertwined with gaslighting tactics, where abusers create health crises to ensure dependency and control.
      • Findings from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV): A survey found that nearly 1 in 5 women in abusive relationships had encountered some form of substance-related manipulation, including drugging without their consent. This points to a broader, underrecognized problem.

      Gaps in the Legal and Clinical Framework

      Due to the covert nature of drugging, there are significant gaps in both the legal system and clinical practice when it comes to recognizing and responding to this abuse:

      • Inadequate Legal Protections: The legal system often requires concrete evidence for prosecution—something that is notoriously hard to gather in cases of drugging. Victims may not immediately recognize the abuse, leading to a delay in reporting. Additionally, law enforcement may not be trained to look for the subtle signs of drugging unless it’s explicitly mentioned by the victim, which is often not the case.
      • Limited Clinical Awareness: Medical professionals may not recognize the signs of drug-facilitated abuse if they are not asking the right questions. Routine screenings for substance abuse during medical check-ups may miss the mark if practitioners don’t suspect that the reported symptoms are related to drugging within an abusive relationship. Experts advocate for more trauma-informed care and specific training on identifying covert abuse tactics.
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        Research Statistics from Related Fields

        Several studies from adjacent fields give a sense of the broader context:

        • Date Rape Drugs: Studies in social settings, like clubs or universities, have shown that drug-facilitated sexual assaults are more common than previously believed. In the UK, a study revealed that 1 in 13 young women reported experiencing drug-facilitated sexual violence in social contexts.
        • Alcohol as a Coercive Tool: Alcohol remains the most frequently used substance in coercive sexual situations, where partners pressure victims to consume excessive amounts, leading to compliance or vulnerability. According to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), over 50% of sexual assaults involve alcohol, showing how substances can play a pivotal role in abusive dynamics.

        Legal and Clinical Perspectives—Challenges in Recognizing and Prosecuting Drug-Facilitated Abuse

        The Legal Landscape: Barriers to Justice

        The legal system faces significant hurdles when it comes to prosecuting cases of drug-facilitated abuse:

        • Lack of Evidence: Evidence of drugging is inherently difficult to obtain, especially if the victim delays seeking medical help. Most substances leave the system quickly, and without a timely blood or urine test, proving drugging becomes almost impossible.
        • Invisibility of the Crime: Unlike physical abuse, drugging doesn’t leave visible marks. This “invisible” nature makes it harder for law enforcement to take allegations seriously without corroborating evidence.
        • Coercive Control Not Fully Recognized: Some regions are beginning to legally recognize coercive control as a form of domestic abuse, but this is far from universal. Where it is recognized, drug-facilitated abuse can fall under this category, but it still faces the challenge of proof.

        Forensic and Clinical Challenges

        Medical professionals, forensic nurses, and psychologists are on the frontline of identifying and documenting abuse, yet they face their own set of challenges:

        • Testing Limitations: Many hospitals have limited drug panels, focusing on common substances like alcohol or narcotics. Designer drugs or prescription medications might go undetected unless specifically tested for.
        • Forensic Expertise: Forensic nurses play a critical role in abuse cases, but many regions lack trained personnel. Even in areas with forensic expertise, the burden of documentation falls on the victim, who may be hesitant or confused.
        • Legal and Clinical Coordination: Improving communication between medical professionals and law enforcement is crucial for gathering and preserving evidence, yet systemic barriers remain. Some advocates call for specialized training for healthcare providers on identifying drug-facilitated abuse within intimate relationships.
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        The Psychological Toll—Impact on Victims

        Emotional and Cognitive Consequences of Drugging

        Drug-facilitated abuse goes beyond the immediate act; it has long-term psychological and emotional effects:

        • Erosion of Self-Trust: Victims often doubt their own judgment, questioning if they’re exaggerating or imagining symptoms. This erosion of self-trust is a core aspect of psychological manipulation and gaslighting.
        • Memory and Cognitive Issues: Drugs can affect memory formation, leading to gaps in recollection. Victims may find themselves confused or disoriented, struggling to remember events or understand what happened. This creates a vulnerability that abusers exploit, casting doubt on any accusations.
        • Anxiety and PTSD: Repeated incidents of drugging can lead to symptoms akin to Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), including flashbacks, hypervigilance, and panic attacks. Victims might develop severe anxiety, especially around food, drink, or medical settings, fearing that they might be drugged again.

        The Social and Relational Impact

        The consequences of drugging extend into the social and relational realms:

        • Isolation from Support Networks: Victims often withdraw from friends and family, feeling embarrassed or confused about their symptoms. This isolation is frequently encouraged by the abuser, who may manipulate the victim into believing that nobody else would understand or believe them.
        • Shame and Guilt: Feelings of shame are common, particularly if the abuse was sexual. Victims may blame themselves for not realizing they were being drugged or feel guilty for staying in the relationship.
        • Mistrust of Medical and Legal Systems: Due to the challenges in proving drug-facilitated abuse, many victims feel abandoned by institutions. A lack of understanding and support from medical and legal professionals can exacerbate this mistrust, making it harder for victims to seek help.

         

        Practical Advice for Professionals and Support Networks

        Best Practices for Healthcare Professionals

        Medical professionals, including doctors, nurses, and therapists, can play a pivotal role in recognizing and responding to drug-facilitated abuse:

        • Ask Specific Questions: In cases where domestic abuse is suspected, it’s vital to ask about symptoms of drugging. Questions such as, “Have you ever felt unusually disoriented or fatigued after eating or drinking?” can open up the conversation.
        • Utilize Trauma-Informed Care: Adopt a trauma-informed approach that emphasizes empathy, validation, and support. Creating a safe space where victims feel believed is crucial.
        • Improve Training and Awareness: Advocate for more comprehensive training in recognizing the subtle signs of coercive drug use within abusive dynamics. Hospitals and clinics should consider incorporating training modules on identifying domestic abuse that involves drugging.

        Guidelines for Legal Professionals

        Legal professionals, including law enforcement officers, prosecutors, and defense attorneys, can make a difference in how drug-facilitated abuse cases are handled:

        • Gather Comprehensive Evidence: Encourage law enforcement to treat allegations seriously and to collect all potential evidence, including any suspicious items found in the home, digital communication, or witness statements.
        • Educate on Coercive Control: Recognize drugging as part of a broader pattern of coercive control. Understanding this context can improve how cases are presented in court and may increase the likelihood of a successful prosecution.
        • Coordinate with Medical Experts: Build partnerships with forensic nurses and clinical psychologists who specialize in abuse cases. Their expertise can be instrumental in court proceedings, especially when physical evidence is lacking.

        Advice for Support Networks—Friends, Family, and Advocates

        Supporting a loved one or client who might be experiencing drug-facilitated abuse requires sensitivity and caution:

        • Be Observant and Non-Judgmental: If someone you know is showing signs of confusion, lethargy, or unexplained illness, gently express concern without making them feel judged. Validate their experiences and refrain from making definitive conclusions.
        • Encourage Medical Independence: Suggest that they see a healthcare professional without their partner’s presence. Offer to accompany them to provide emotional support and ensure they can speak openly.
        • Respect Their Autonomy: Don’t push them to leave the relationship before they are ready. Focus on building trust and offering information about resources, such as hotlines, shelters, or legal advice.

         

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        Prevention and Awareness—What We Can Do as a Society

        Educating the Public

        Raising awareness is one of the most effective ways to prevent drug-facilitated abuse:

        • Media Campaigns: Use media—social media, articles, podcasts, and video content—to highlight the issue of drugging within relationships. Stories from survivors can humanize the data and make the issue more relatable.
        • Educational Workshops: Schools, universities, and community centers can host workshops on recognizing and preventing drug-facilitated abuse. These workshops should emphasize the role of coercive control and non-consensual imagery as abuse.

        Improving Legislation and Advocacy

        Legal reforms can significantly impact how these cases are handled:

        • Advocate for Stronger Laws: Support legislation that criminalizes coercive control and enhances penalties for drug-facilitated sexual abuse. Push for clearer guidelines on evidence collection and increased funding for forensic resources.
        • Support for Survivors: Encourage the creation of survivor-focused resources that provide legal advice, healthcare, and psychological support. The burden of proof in such cases should be balanced with a compassionate understanding of the challenges victims face.

        Supporting Grassroots Movements

        Empower local communities to get involved:

        • Form Survivor Networks: Create confidential support networks where survivors can share their experiences and provide peer guidance.
        • Involve Local Organizations: Partner with domestic violence shelters, mental health charities, and legal advocacy groups to ensure a comprehensive approach to supporting victims.

         

        A Call to Action

        Addressing drug-facilitated abuse within relationships is a complex challenge that requires a collective effort from individuals, communities, and systems. By shedding light on this hidden abuse, we create a path toward healing and justice, ensuring that survivors feel seen, heard, and supported. This is not merely about exposing a dark reality but about changing a culture that often fails to recognize the most invisible forms of violence.

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        For generations, menopause has been portrayed in a limiting and often negative light—a time when a woman’s fertility wanes, and she is cast aside by a society that values youth, beauty, and the ability to give life. Media, culture, and even our collective consciousness have told us that a woman’s worth is intrinsically tied to her ability to nurture and give, primarily through her fertility. But this narrative couldn’t be further from the truth.

        In reality, menopause is one of the most powerful transitions in a woman’s life—a liberation, a stepping into her true essence, autonomy, and wisdom. It is a profound initiation into a new phase where a woman retains her energy, connects deeply with nature and her inner wisdom, and claims her rightful place as a sage. It’s time we question what we’ve been told about menopause and rewrite the story to reflect the beauty, power, and freedom that it truly represents.

        The Myth of the “Witch”: A Woman in Her Power

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        If you look back through history, mythology, and fairy tales, the image of the older, independent woman living in nature—often portrayed as a “witch”—is prevalent. She is depicted as mysterious, dangerous, and someone to be feared or even cast away. But this portrayal is a reflection of how society has long feared a woman who no longer gives in the traditional sense—no longer bound to the roles of mother, wife, and nurturer. A woman who steps into menopause has completed a great cycle of giving—through nurturing children, partners, and communities—and now she reclaims her energy and channels it inward.

        This reclamation of power is precisely why she has been misunderstood, feared, and labeled as dangerous. A woman in menopause is no longer tied to the endless cycles of fertility, menstruation, and caretaking. She becomes autonomous, self-reliant, and often more in tune with the deeper wisdom of the earth. This independence has historically threatened patriarchal systems that relied on women’s giving and subservience. Instead of seeing the menopausal woman as “bad” or “a witch,” it’s time we recognize her as a wise elder—a woman who has become whole, untethered by societal expectations, and more in tune with her true self.

        From Giving to Retaining: Reclaiming Energy and Power

        Throughout her fertile years, a woman’s body is often seen as a vessel for others. Her breasts swell in readiness to nurture life, her womb cycles through phases of preparation for creation, and her energy is often directed toward those around her—children, partners, and society. It’s a beautiful process, but it’s also one that demands a constant outpouring of energy.

        Menopause marks the end of this constant giving and the beginning of something truly revolutionary: the retention of energy. With the cessation of menstruation and fertility, a woman no longer needs to give in the same way. Instead, she can redirect this energy toward herself—toward her own growth, dreams, and wisdom. She becomes the keeper of her own life force.

        Menopause is not a loss; it’s a rebirth. It is the moment when a woman’s body stops preparing for others and begins nurturing her own power. And when this transition is embraced, it can lead to profound growth, creativity, and spiritual awakening. A woman in menopause is no longer bound to the cycles of giving and depletion. She steps into her sovereignty.

        A Deep Connection with Nature and Wisdom

        Women who are in tune with their cycles, their bodies, and their wisdom find that menopause deepens their connection with the rhythms of nature. The hormonal fluctuations of menstruation may cease, but a new cycle of wisdom begins—one that aligns with the earth’s cycles of death and renewal, growth and hibernation. This is the sage phase, a time when a woman’s inner compass becomes clearer, and she can offer her unique wisdom to the world.

        In many cultures, older women were once revered as wise leaders, healers, and advisors. Their insight was sought after, and they held positions of honor in their communities. Unfortunately, modern society has largely lost this respect for elder women, pushing a narrative that values youth and fertility above all else. But when we look to indigenous traditions or ancient cultures, we see the deep respect given to menopausal women. They are the ones who hold the knowledge of life, who have walked through fire, and who can offer guidance from a place of lived experience and spiritual connection.

        The wisdom that menopausal women carry is not only for themselves but also for their communities. It is the knowledge of cycles—of life, death, and rebirth—and of what it means to live in harmony with oneself and the world.

        Menopause and the Fear of Losing Value

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        But this fear is rooted in a misunderstanding of what truly makes a woman valuable. Fertility is just one phase of life—it is not the totality of a woman’s existence. A woman’s value is not diminished by age or the end of her fertility; in fact, it is enhanced by the wisdom, strength, and independence she gains in this new phase of life.

        We must shift the narrative. Menopause should be seen not as the end of a woman’s value, but as a gateway to freedom—freedom from the expectations of others, freedom from the cycles of giving, and freedom to fully embrace her own power. In many cultures, elders are seen as the most valuable members of society, the ones who hold the key to knowledge and guidance. When we reconnect with this wisdom, we can reclaim the deep respect and reverence that menopausal women deserve.

        The Liberation of Menopause: Freedom from Expectations

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        I remember 25 years ago in a rural area in Bali (I was looking into living there at that time) I became aware of a beautiful tradition that some women still embraced. After menopause, they removed their bras and went topless, embracing their bodies in their natural state. For them, it’s an act of liberation—a way of saying, “I have done my duty as a mother and wife. I am no longer here to be seen as a sexual object or a giver of nourishment. Now, I am free to be fully myself.”  But it was also deeper than that, before colonization, they were all topless as  breasts were not sexualised (the woman’s neck was).

        Before Dutch colonization in the early 20th century, it was common for Balinese women to walk around topless as part of their traditional attire, particularly in rural areas. This was not considered improper or unusual in Balinese culture. Their toplessness was a reflection of the island’s climate and a natural, accepted part of everyday life.

        However, when the Dutch began to establish control over Bali, they introduced European standards of modesty, which frowned upon public nudity, including women being topless. This cultural imposition led to the gradual covering up of Balinese women, particularly in public spaces. The Dutch colonial administration, along with Christian missionaries, played a significant role in promoting Western norms of decency and dress.

        Over time, these external pressures, combined with the growing influence of global tourism and modernization, contributed to lasting changes in Balinese customs regarding dress. The shift can be seen as part of a larger pattern of colonial powers imposing their cultural norms on indigenous populations. 

        This act can be seen as a statement of autonomy, independence, and resistance to the ongoing effects of colonization on Balinese culture. It represents a reclaiming of the body and the natural state of being, while rejecting the external pressures that have historically sought to control and dictate women’s appearance and behavior. Thus, in this context, it becomes a powerful expression of both personal and cultural liberation.

        Across the world, various cultures have experienced similar dynamics where colonial or external forces imposed new standards of dress, behavior, or modesty, leading to acts of resistance or reclaiming of traditional practices. Here are a few examples:

        1. Breastfeeding in Public – Africa

        In many African cultures, particularly in rural areas, breastfeeding in public was traditionally accepted and seen as natural. However, with European colonization and the spread of Western norms, public breastfeeding began to be stigmatized in some regions. Today, some African women and activists are reclaiming the practice as a way of resisting imposed Western notions of modesty and reconnecting with their cultural roots. Movements advocating for the normalization of breastfeeding in public can be seen as a modern reclaiming of autonomy over their bodies and a rejection of colonial-era shame.

        2. The Hawaiian Hula Reclamation

        In Hawaii, the traditional hula dance was banned by Christian missionaries in the 19th century due to its perceived “indecency.” Hula was considered too sensual, particularly with the way women dressed and moved. However, in the 1970s, during the Hawaiian Renaissance, there was a powerful movement to reclaim hula and other traditional practices as part of native Hawaiian identity and pride. Today, hula is not only a cultural expression but also an act of resistance and a rejection of the suppression imposed by colonization.

        3. Indigenous Dress in Latin America

        In various Latin American countries, particularly among indigenous communities, traditional clothing was discouraged or outright banned by colonial powers. In Bolivia, for example, indigenous women known as “cholitas” were pressured to adopt Western-style clothing during colonial times, and wearing their traditional pollera skirts and bowler hats became associated with lower social status. However, in recent years, many women have reclaimed these traditional outfits as a symbol of pride and resistance, with cholitas now often proudly wearing their traditional clothing and even participating in cholita wrestling, a sport that empowers these women through their cultural identity.

        4. Indigenous Australian Resistance to Colonial Dress Codes

        Before British colonization, Indigenous Australians lived semi-naked, adapting their attire to their environment. Colonizers, particularly missionaries, imposed European clothing on indigenous peoples, associating nudity or traditional attire with “savagery.” In the 1960s and 70s, as part of the broader indigenous rights movement, there was a reclaiming of traditional practices, including elements of dress and body paint, which had been suppressed. This was an assertion of cultural identity and autonomy in the face of continued colonial influence.

        5. First Nations and Inuit Clothing in Canada

        Inuit and First Nations peoples in Canada traditionally wore fur and hide clothing suitable for the harsh climates of the Arctic and sub-Arctic. However, with colonization, there was pressure to adopt Western-style clothing. As part of cultural reclamation movements in recent years, indigenous communities are reintroducing traditional clothing as a way of asserting their identity, reconnecting with traditional ways of life, and rejecting the erasure of their culture. This reclaiming extends to the beading and fur-trimmed parkas, which are both functional and symbolic of indigenous pride and resistance to colonial assimilation.

        6. Nudity in Native American Ceremonies

        In some Native American cultures, nudity was a natural part of certain spiritual ceremonies and rites of passage. Colonial European settlers and missionaries, however, imposed strict dress codes and associated nudity with immorality. Today, some Native American communities are reclaiming their traditional ceremonies, including aspects of dress and nudity, as a form of cultural preservation and resistance against the centuries of imposed Christian and colonial norms.

        7. The Hijab and Veil Debate in Muslim Cultures

        In countries like Iran and Turkey, the wearing of the hijab or veil has been a symbol of both resistance and imposition at different times in history. During periods of Westernization in the 20th century, such as under Turkey’s Atatürk or Iran’s Shah, there were laws banning traditional Islamic dress, including the veil, as part of modernization efforts. In response, many women resisted these impositions by continuing to wear the veil as a symbol of cultural and religious identity. The complex politics surrounding the hijab today, in both Western and Muslim-majority countries, reflects the ongoing tension between personal freedom, cultural identity, and external pressures, whether they come from colonial powers or local governments.

        8. Pacific Islander Tattoo Traditions

        In Polynesian cultures, traditional tattoos (such as tā moko in Māori culture and pe’a in Samoa) were central to cultural identity, status, and spirituality. European missionaries discouraged or outright banned tattooing during the colonial era, associating it with “heathen” practices. Today, Polynesians are reclaiming their tattoo traditions as symbols of pride and resistance to colonization. Getting traditional tattoos is now seen as a way of reconnecting with their ancestors and asserting cultural identity in the face of ongoing Western influence.


        Pre Christian Europe

        In Europe, many pre-Christian traditions, including those of the pagans, druids, and Vikings, were similarly subject to repression by the rise of Christianity and the imposition of new moral and societal norms. These ancient cultures had a deep connection with nature, reverence for the cycles of life, and a more fluid understanding of the body and spirituality. The transition to Christianity across Europe, often accompanied by force and colonization, resulted in the demonization and suppression of many of these beliefs and practices. Here’s a deeper look into how these European traditions were affected and how elements of them are being reclaimed today:

        9. Pagan Traditions and Reverence for Nature

        Pre-Christian Europe was predominantly pagan, with various tribes and cultures worshipping nature gods and goddesses, the sun, the moon, and the earth itself. In these cultures, there was often a deep reverence for women, fertility, and the cycles of life and death. Female deities, like the Celtic Brigid or the Norse Freyja, were central to spiritual life.

        • Women as spiritual leaders: Many pagan societies revered women as priestesses, healers, and spiritual leaders, often associating them with wisdom, the moon, and nature’s regenerative powers. This role was dramatically diminished with the rise of Christianity, which often portrayed women as sinful or in need of control. Many of the women once seen as healers were later labeled witches or heretics.

        • Sacred groves and natural spaces: Druids and other pagan groups often worshipped in natural spaces, such as forests, groves, and rivers, seeing these areas as sacred. The destruction of these sacred places and the building of churches over them were common tactics used by early Christian missionaries to replace the old religions with Christianity.

        In recent decades, there has been a resurgence of neo-pagan movements, such as Wicca and Druidry, which reclaim this deep connection to nature and ancient traditions. For many, this reclamation is about reestablishing harmony with the earth and honoring the cycles of life and death in ways that feel more aligned with their ancestral roots.

        10. Druids and the Wisdom of the Sacred

        The Druids were the priestly class of the Celts, renowned for their deep spiritual knowledge, their connection with nature, and their role as mediators between the material world and the spiritual realm. They were particularly associated with sacred oak trees and natural places of worship, such as stone circles and groves.

        • Repression by the Romans and Christians: The Druids were systematically oppressed by both the Romans and later by Christian missionaries. Romans considered Druidic practices a threat to their rule, particularly their influence over the Celtic tribes. After the Christianization of Europe, Druidic beliefs were further demonized, their wisdom often reinterpreted as dark magic or witchcraft.

        • Reclaiming Druidic traditions: In the 20th century, the Druid revival began, with groups like the Order of Bards, Ovates, and Druids (OBOD) emerging to reclaim and revive Druidic spirituality. These modern Druids emphasize a connection to nature, seasonal cycles, and ancient wisdom, representing a spiritual reconnection to pre-Christian roots.

        11. Viking Traditions: The Norse Gods and Feminine Power

        The Vikings, or Norse people, held deep-rooted spiritual beliefs centered around the Aesir and Vanir gods, such as Odin, Thor, Freyja, and Frigg. Their society, while often perceived as patriarchal, had important roles for women, especially in spiritual and domestic spheres. The Völva, a female shaman or seeress, held great power in Viking society, communicating with spirits and offering prophecy.

        • Viking women and their autonomy: Norse women, particularly those who followed the path of the Völva, were respected for their spiritual knowledge. They were often associated with seiðr, a form of Norse magic or shamanism that involved chanting, ritual, and trance. Völvas were highly influential in their societies, offering guidance and foretelling the future. However, after the Christianization of Scandinavia, many of these traditions were suppressed, and female spiritual power was demonized.

        • The conversion to Christianity: The Christianization of Scandinavia was a slow and often violent process, with the old gods and rituals eventually demonized. Women who practiced seiðr were labeled witches, and many aspects of Norse spirituality were suppressed or altered to fit Christian narratives.

        • Reclamation of Norse spirituality: Today, the Ásatrú movement, a modern revival of Norse paganism, is growing in popularity, particularly in Scandinavia, Iceland, and North America. For some, reclaiming Norse spirituality is a way of connecting with their Viking ancestors, while for others, it represents resistance against the erasure of indigenous European spirituality. The resurgence of interest in figures like the Völva also reflects a desire to reconnect with the feminine aspects of Norse belief, which were once central to Viking society.

        Witchcraft and the Demonization of Female Power in Europe

        As Christianity spread across Europe, women’s spiritual roles were often suppressed or reinterpreted as evil. The witch hunts of the late medieval and early modern periods are the most infamous example of how women’s power—whether as healers, midwives, or spiritual leaders—was targeted.

        • The “witch” archetype: Many of the women who were labeled as witches were practicing traditions that had been handed down for generations—healing with herbs, leading community rituals, or acting as spiritual guides. These roles, deeply respected in their pre-Christian communities, became vilified in the context of Christianity. This demonization was often a result of the church’s fear of women’s power, particularly those who operated outside the patriarchal structures.

        • Reclaiming the witch: In modern times, the figure of the “witch” has been reclaimed by many women as a symbol of feminine power, resistance, and autonomy. Movements like Wicca and other forms of modern paganism have restored the idea of the “witch” as a healer, a wise woman, and a protector of ancient wisdom. This reclaiming of the witch’s role is a rebellion against centuries of repression and an assertion of spiritual and bodily autonomy.

        Ritual Nudity and Body Autonomy in Pagan Europe

        In many pagan European cultures, ritual nudity was a normal and often spiritually significant practice. Being unclothed in sacred rituals or festivals symbolized purity, freedom, and a connection to nature. For example, in some Druidic rituals, being unclothed while performing certain rites was believed to allow participants to draw closer to the spiritual world, unencumbered by material things.

        • The suppression of nudity: As Christianity spread across Europe, nudity, especially for women, became associated with sin, shame, and immorality. Traditional rites that involved nudity were banned, and strict dress codes were enforced. Women’s bodies became more controlled, both physically and spiritually, by these new religious structures.

        Conclusion

        In all these examples, we see a common theme: the imposition of external (often Western, Christian and Colonial..in some cases also the Islamic religion) norms on indigenous or local practices, particularly around issues of body autonomy, modesty, and dress, but also trying to sever the connection with nature, our innate wisdom and intuition and imprison and dilute the sacred feminine energy. 

        The act of reclaiming traditional practices—whether it’s removing a top, embracing indigenous clothing, or practicing ancient rites—becomes a powerful form of resistance against cultural suppression. These acts are not only about reconnecting with one’s cultural heritage but also about asserting autonomy and identity in the face of historical and ongoing colonization.

        NO FUCKS TO GIVE: This is the power of menopause. It is the shedding of roles, expectations, and societal pressures. A woman in menopause steps into her truth, no longer needing to conform to anyone’s idea of who she should be. She no longer feels the pressure to nurture others, to maintain the image of youth, or to fit into the mold that society has created for her.

        Instead, she becomes whole unto herself. She becomes a woman of power, a woman of wisdom, a woman who is deeply connected to her own nature and to the earth. She is liberated from the need for external validation and embraces her autonomy with grace and confidence.

        Reclaiming Menopause as an Empowering Rite of Passage

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        It’s time to rewrite the story of menopause, to reclaim it as a sacred and empowering rite of passage. We must challenge the outdated narratives that have diminished the value of menopausal women and instead celebrate the incredible wisdom and strength that this phase brings.

        Menopause is not the end—it is a powerful new beginning. It is a time of liberation, autonomy, and the deepest connection to one’s inner wisdom. It is a transition into the role of the sage, where a woman’s value is no longer tied to what she gives to others but to the profound wisdom she holds within.

        Let us honor the power of menopause and the women who walk through this transition with grace, wisdom, and strength. May we look to them for guidance, respect their autonomy, and celebrate the liberation that comes with this new phase of life.


        How to Lessen the Challenging Symptoms of Menopause

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        Menopause is a natural transition in a woman’s life, but it can come with a range of challenging symptoms such as hot flashes, mood swings, sleep disturbances, and changes in energy. While menopause is a powerful transformation, there are many ways to ease the difficult symptoms and make the journey more manageable. Below are some holistic and practical approaches to help lessen the intensity of menopausal symptoms:

        1. Balance Your Diet

        Diet plays a key role in managing menopausal symptoms. Incorporating nutrient-dense foods can help regulate hormones, reduce hot flashes, and maintain energy levels.

        • Phytoestrogen-rich foods: These are plant-based compounds that mimic estrogen and can help ease hot flashes and hormonal imbalances. Foods like flaxseeds, soy products (tofu, tempeh), chickpeas, and lentils are rich in phytoestrogens.
        • Calcium and Vitamin D: Bone health becomes crucial during menopause due to the decline in estrogen, which can lead to bone density loss. Consume foods rich in calcium (leafy greens, almonds, sesame seeds) and ensure adequate Vitamin D intake (through sunlight or supplements).
        • Healthy fats: Omega-3 fatty acids, found in salmon, chia seeds, and walnuts, help reduce inflammation, ease mood swings, and improve heart health, which is essential as cardiovascular risks increase post-menopause.
        • Hydration: Drink plenty of water to help manage hot flashes, which can dehydrate the body.

        2. Herbal Supplements and Remedies

        Certain herbs have been traditionally used to balance hormones and reduce menopausal symptoms:

        • Black Cohosh: One of the most widely researched herbs for menopause, Black Cohosh helps reduce hot flashes, night sweats, and mood swings.
        • Red Clover: Rich in phytoestrogens, red clover may reduce hot flashes and promote heart health.
        • Ashwagandha: Known as an adaptogen, Ashwagandha can help with mood stabilization, reduce anxiety, and improve sleep.
        • Dong Quai: A traditional Chinese herb, Dong Quai is used to balance estrogen levels and reduce hot flashes and night sweats.
        • Valerian Root: Helpful for those who struggle with insomnia, Valerian root promotes relaxation and better sleep.

        Always consult with a healthcare provider before starting herbal supplements to ensure they’re right for you.

        3. Exercise Regularly

        Physical activity is vital for managing both the physical and emotional symptoms of menopause. Regular exercise helps to:

        • Boost mood: Exercise increases serotonin and endorphin levels, which can reduce anxiety, depression, and mood swings.
        • Regulate body temperature: Regular physical activity can help regulate your body’s ability to handle temperature changes, potentially reducing the severity of hot flashes.
        • Support heart health: Post-menopause, the risk of cardiovascular disease increases, so incorporating cardio exercises like walking, swimming, or cycling can support heart health.
        • Strength training: Building muscle mass through weightlifting or resistance exercises helps maintain bone density and strength, reducing the risk of osteoporosis.
        • Improve sleep: Regular exercise helps reduce insomnia and improve the quality of sleep, which is often disrupted during menopause.

        4. Manage Stress

        Stress management is critical during menopause, as elevated stress levels can worsen symptoms such as hot flashes, mood swings, and insomnia. Consider incorporating these stress-relief practices into your routine:

        • Mindfulness and meditation: Regular meditation practices can help reduce anxiety, improve emotional balance, and calm the nervous system.
        • Yoga: Yoga not only improves flexibility and strength but also helps with mental relaxation and deep breathing, which can reduce hot flashes and promote better sleep.
        • Breathing exercises: Practices like deep belly breathing or alternate nostril breathing can help calm your mind and regulate body temperature, reducing the frequency and intensity of hot flashes.
        • Journaling: Expressing emotions and thoughts through journaling can provide a release and reduce emotional turbulence during this time.

        5. Sleep Hygiene

        Insomnia and disrupted sleep are common symptoms during menopause, but improving your sleep hygiene can make a big difference:

        • Establish a routine: Go to bed and wake up at the same time every day, creating a rhythm that helps your body adjust.
        • Create a relaxing bedtime ritual: Unwind with calming activities like reading, taking a warm bath, or practicing gentle stretching or meditation.
        • Limit caffeine and alcohol: Both can trigger hot flashes and disrupt sleep, so it’s wise to reduce your intake, especially in the evening.
        • Cool down: Keep your bedroom cool and use breathable, light bedding to help prevent overheating during the night.

        6. Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT)

        For women experiencing severe symptoms, Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) can be an option. HRT involves taking synthetic estrogen or a combination of estrogen and progesterone to supplement the body’s decreasing hormone levels.

        • Benefits: HRT can effectively reduce hot flashes, night sweats, vaginal dryness, and mood swings.
        • Considerations: There are potential risks associated with HRT, including an increased risk of blood clots, stroke, and breast cancer. Always consult your doctor to assess if it’s the right option for you.

        7. Acupuncture

        Acupuncture has been shown to help reduce menopausal symptoms, particularly hot flashes and mood swings. This ancient Chinese practice balances the body’s energy flow and has a calming, restorative effect on the nervous system.

        • How it helps: Acupuncture can help with stress relief, insomnia, and even the hormonal balance needed to ease hot flashes.

        8. Support Bone Health

        Estrogen plays a significant role in maintaining bone density, so when its levels drop during menopause, bones can become more fragile. To protect your bones:

        • Calcium and Vitamin D: Ensure adequate intake of these essential nutrients. Consider supplements if dietary intake is insufficient.
        • Weight-bearing exercises: Activities like walking, hiking, and resistance training help maintain bone strength.
        • Avoid smoking and limit alcohol: Both can reduce bone density and weaken bones over time.

        9. Stay Connected and Embrace Community

        Menopause can sometimes feel isolating, but it doesn’t have to be. Sharing experiences with other women who are going through the same journey can provide emotional support and reduce feelings of loneliness. Look for:

        • Support groups: Online or local groups where you can discuss symptoms, remedies, and experiences.
        • Trusted friends or mentors: Open conversations about menopause can help normalize the experience and make it easier to navigate.

        10. Embrace the Power of This Transition

        One of the most powerful things you can do during menopause is to shift your mindset. Rather than seeing it as an ending, menopause can be embraced as a profound liberation—a time to reconnect with your own wisdom, reclaim your energy, and step into a new phase of life with autonomy and power. This perspective alone can lessen the emotional challenges of menopause, reducing anxiety about aging and helping you see this phase as a beautiful, natural evolution.


        Making Menopause Easier

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        By approaching menopause with a holistic mindset, you can ease the symptoms and make this transition as smooth as possible. A combination of the right diet, herbs, exercise, stress management, and community support can significantly improve the experience. Remember that menopause is not just an ending; it’s the beginning of a new chapter where you can reclaim your energy, step into your wisdom, and fully embrace the power of your autonomy.

        Embrace this time, and let it be a journey of liberation, empowerment, and renewal.

        I’ve talked with many women who have made the transition, and their experiences are widely different. However, I do notice patterns: the women who consciously look after their holistic well-being tend to feel a lot more empowered, happy and free during the transition than our fellow sisters who carry heavy emotional trauma, are stressed, don’t look after their bodies and resist growing old. I’m 50 now and my cycle is still regular, so I do not talk from personal experience, but I will in the future. This is also a form of preparation for me, learning about it and reframing it as an empowering new beginning rather than the end. 

        Lots of love

        Ami

        Please Share Your Experience and Thoughts Below

         

        #Menopause #Hormones #Ageing #Sisterhood #colonialization #Feminism 

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